Maggie’s communication of signing up for hospice is not as dire as many of you might think. Hospice care is comfort care and does not necessarily mean impending death. Nyshie’s mom, who is 98, was put on hospice care four years ago and they continue to be amazed that she is still with us as they predicted less than 6 months at that time because of congestive heart failure. Probably the reason she is doing so well is that she continues to refuse medication for it. Or maybe it is just the Fly genes, which also has kept Nyshie fighting all this time.
At any rate, hospice delivers many services that are useful for us — home doctor visits, daily phone check ins, IV at home if needed for pain or nausea, specialists in pain and nausea control, massage therapists, CNA for bathing or other home services, a person to come read for four hours a week and more. The reason that we did not start with this is that they at first would only offer Palliative Care, which is basically consultation and advice, because we were still on the experimental treatment. We have hospice nurse friends who live in Utah and Gunnison and they said they would never refuse this care because of that. Then they gave me the “magic words.” We told them they did not have to pay for the experimental treatment and we were picking up all the costs. Within ten minutes the Medical Director approved her hospice care. And, we are fortunate that they sent a Nurse Practitioner who wore a tie-dye dress. She said she was stuck in the 70’s, just our kind of person. They really want to give her whatever will provide her with comfort and peace of mind. They even asked her how much pot she was smoking and apologized that they couldn't give her a marijuana card because they receive Federal Funds. Nysh, of course, has had one for a long time. She actually doesn't like the feeling so we have found a strain that has low THC (the psychological effects) and high CBD (the medicinal part).
I, with my optimistic, glass half-full attitude, and with the support and guidance of the person who is directing the experimental care, continue to be encouraged because not only is she not deteriorating she is showing small signs of improvement. She was outside, laying on a lounger longer than she has in quite a while this morning. She ate more than she has eaten in weeks this morning. Things tasted good to her. She is showing more energy. Many subtle changes that we hope indicate that this is working. We shall see, of course. So, I am in the space of “ready to let go but not ready to give up.”
Thanks to all of you for your continued love and support. I am sure this is a major reason she continues to be with us.
Love to all,
Paul